August 16, 2011

• 11-If you are #dating someone who says they aren’t ready to commit, would you wait? How long?

  Why is this even interesting to me? Your guess is as good as mine. Seems depressing to even think about, but whatever.
  
  
  I’ve said recently-ish that I don’t feel like I’m supposed to be dating, yet at the same time I’ve just decided to take everything one day at a time and trust that whatever’s supposed to be happening to me is going to happen. I just have to learn to recognize it for what it is and work with what I’ve been given. My problem is that I tried to rush and force things because I cared so much about having someone else rather than focusing my efforts on the things in my life that are important. I think I was scared of that happening to me again and that’s why I said no dating. I am still scared, but I recognize what’s more important to me now. I guess I’m thinking about this question in the sense that I feel like I wouldn’t be the one waiting. I don’t want to make any hard and fast decisions about dating anymore…I think that’s what’s brought me to this point.
  
  
  Somehow I feel like a person waiting on me wouldn’t wait that long, but I guess that would be up to them. If I’m genuinely being asked this about someone else(which I kind of am since it was originally directed at me)…I think it depends. I hate making a decision when there are so many shades of grey. Maybe I care enough about said person to wait. I think it really depends on the reason that they don’t want to commit. I think if they were a douche about it and didn’t want to commit because they wanted to sleep around or something then I wouldn’t be willing to wait. I think there are always circumstances I would need to think through before I can say yes or no, but that’s the only one that would definitely be a no. I think in all other circumstances I would need to see what was going on, but yeah. That was kind of a longer answer than I intended it to be?

     

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